Adios 2009

My neighbor K asked me to come over for a sec this morning. I was standing in her living room and I noticed this cool flat rock sitting on one of her antique pieces. I picked it up and said "This is sooo cool"(It has an eye painted on it). She told me to keep it and said "I've got my eye on you". I stuck it in my pocket. I love those little kind of talismans and usually have one on me at all times. Goodbye 2009. I have luck on my side and here's to The Year of H! Stay tuned...

Heidi is a Girl with a German Name

I'm reading two books right now: Freiderun Miram-Stockmann's "My Life with Boxers" and John P. Wagner's "The Boxer." Both of these individuals were prominent in the formation of the breed. Stockmann's story is fascinating. Art school girl meets boy, falls in love with boy's boxer and the rest became history. I love her prose. And I just identify with her. It really makes me think about my future with a new dog. A new boxer. Lately I'm thinking it would be cool to move somewhere with some space and have a breeding pair.

And then I think, no, Heidi. What you really want is to get a puppy with German parents and go hard core into Schtuzhund training. I think yes, a girl and her dog. I don't think there could be a more satisfying or empowering thing. Grr.

Another Year

This year I got rid of most of my stuff. From top to bottom, tip to tail I got rid of all the physical, cumbersome material stuff that clutters up a small bungalow(and my inner peace). Since my brother died almost 10 years ago now(it started then but just becomes more relevant with each passing year), more and more I see the unstoppable force that life is.

We mourn things that never have a chance at permanence, even at their very beginnings. It's a short battle. Every so often I freak out because my world is so small. Socially small. I inherited a hermit like proclivity for surviving, for taking it as it is. I mean what can you do at 40?

I think the idea of good friend is a flight of fancy for me. A magical whim that only exists in Judy Blume books and the movie Beaches. I indulge that fantasy when it happens. I cry at sad movies or even the obituaries of people I don't even know. Every life is beautiful, even if only for one moment. Here's to all of us.

Merry Christmas from My Casa to Yours

xo

Moving Forward

One kibble at a time.

Frank, or 'Clovis' or 'Clams Casino' as I like to call him has been having a little bit of a time with The Chidler's departure from this world. He's been slow to get back into the swing of food. As anyone who knows a pug knows, food is King. He's slowly coming around, but Ginger thinks it's just more for her. Damn females.

Extending the Branch

Today I went to the grocery store to get some stuff and ran into my next door neighbor. She raved about the Christmas card I sent(I usually get that) and then I told her about Charlie. She gave me the best hug I've had in a very long time. It was totally genuine.

They're like my cool old hippie parents although they don't smoke pot and probably never were hippies. They've been so supportive through the years. My little neighborhood is as close as you can get to "It's a Wonderful Life" in this waning year of 2009.

Saturday I drank enough red wine to inebriate entire said neighborhood. In the process I deleted my twitter account and knocked off a huge chunk of my 'friends' on Facebook. A few I accidentally deleted. Oh well. In the course of the evening, I decided to check my grades.

Whoa. What's this? A B+ in ActionScript? I was going into shock. I immediately sent an email to the department head and the instructor.

Magically, today it's an A.

WTF. I deserved it so I don't what the hell was up with that. Seriously, I'm NOT a Virgo. I just have a three semester 4.0 going and I'm not gonna blow it. I would never blow it. No, not a virgo!

As an Aquarian, I decided to extend myself The Olive Branch. I smell better, I feel better, I'm smart enough, I'm good enough and damn it, people like me!

Whatev

In honor of my dog I have decided to become more authentic. It is what it is. No offense.

Good Night, Sweet Prince

My heart aches. Charlie is gone. This morning I woke up, came down stairs and found him tired as usual. I heard him coughing in the night and thought about what today might bring. Last night I sat down by him and told him all the things I always told him, but especially that I was always so proud of him.

At that moment, he licked my nose a good one.

This morning I took him outside and my friend was coming down the sidewalk. He was so happy to see her. I think he was saying goodbye to her. Really. As we continued down the sidewalk, he just laid down. When he got up, he stumbled. The poor guy's balance was so bad. My heart was just aching and breaking into a million little pieces.

She said he was telling me it was time.

We went to the vet and as we walked in to see Dr. M, I just started to bawl. I brought her up to date on everything that has been happening. She got down on the ground with me and listened to his heart. Then she said we could give him some x-rays because it sounded like there was fluid around his heart. O pain! O sadness!

To imagine that beautiful, perfect heart surrounded by fluid was overwhelming. That big, giving, sweet heart of love and joy and all hopefulness! The heart who was my constant companion the whole time I was alone and pregnant. The heart who used to scramble up the stairs and lounge on my bed and sometimes nap with me. My sweet friend.

She said we could give him some pills, diuretics to get rid of some of the fluid. But that it wouldn't help with his weakness. I asked her what she would do. We talked and I asked her if she ever had an old dog. She told me she did, they were farm dogs and luckily, they all passed away in their sleep...

I told her I didn't want him to suffer. To continually decline in front of my eyes and in front of Snowflakes.

This morning he told Charlie, "I hope they don't give you a shot to make you go to sleep and kill you." He is going to be so mad at me.

I told her that I didn't know what I would do if I came downstairs one morning to find him paralyzed. She said she wouldn't want any five year old to see that either. I think he is just too young to fully grasp the depth of what is happening.

She said only I knew my dog best. Did I know him well enough to make this decision? I hope so. My poor boy hasn't played in weeks. And although he would eat, I had to help him with that. His elegant legs would slide out from underneath him. I decided that I didn't want to prolong this very proud dog's life in that way. The way he looked at me, so calm. Those big brown milk-dud eyes never lied.

I held my arms around his soft, blocky head. I told him how proud I was of him and how much I loved him and how much I will miss him. Warm ears that always smelled like chocolate chip cookies, I nestled into for the very last time as he peacefully slipped away so quickly from this precious life. He was gone.

After some time, I took my arms from around his always gentle body and laid his head down. I couldn't bear to go around to the other side and look into those eyes. I said goodbye to my friend and turned around. My last image is of him lying on his side, those gorgeous, muscular legs elegantly resting facing away from me. They are perfect. He is perfect. R.I.P Sweet Charlie.

When the Time Comes

Last night I let Charlie sit on the couch next to me and cuddle. It is so difficult to see him coughing, rasping and just so tired. I heard him coughing at 3am and I wondered if he would be alright. This morning he greeted me with his usual gift of happiness, although not as vigorous.

I took him for a car ride to take Snowflake to school. I heaved him up into the front seat with all my might. He just curled up with his head down on the console, glancing up at me every once in a while. I drove out to Petco to see if I could get him some soft dog food. Yesterday, I had to hold his bowl for him. Hard dog food is difficult for him. They didn't open until 9am so I drove home.

We went for our usual walk up the street. One block. He couldn't make it. On the way back down, he just stopped and laid down on the cold, snowy ground. I let him rest. He stopped again a few feet later, in the road. My neighbors came outside and asked me if they could help. I said no. They gave me hugs and I just started to cry. My friend told me that he's telling me it's time.

Tomorrow I will take him to the vet and I'm not sure what will happen. I can't afford expensive tests and that sucks. He is a dog that deserves all the stops pulled out. At the same time, I will not let him just hang on for my benefit. It's utterly horrible to see him this way. I will do right by him, it's just so hard.

I'm not Ready

I will never forget the day I jumped into my bright yellow VW GTI VR6 and sped west to an adorable victorian in the countryside. It was pale, creamy yellow and had one of those fairytale turrets. I remember the waist high grass swaying in the late August breeze. A little blond haired girl was on the porch.

As I got out of the car, two giant Boxers came prancing up to me and behind them, a sweet little fawn puppy, wearing long white gloves and a black mask. They mouthed my hands and as soon as I saw the little one, I knew he would be mine. My Charlie. Charleston the Puck of Cheswick.

That little puppy is now 11 years old. In the past couple of months, I've seen him steadily go down hill. At first he just tripped a little on our walks. Lately, he's had more trouble. Almost falling down when he does a body shake, hindquarter weakness and not being able to balance when he goes to the bathroom.

I took him to the vet in August when I began to be concerned and everything sounded normal...lungs and heart okay. But mine aren't. My heart is breaking over my sweet boy. I bought him a heating pad and give him Bufferin, but still. I wonder if he is in any pain. I just don't know how I will handle that moment when it comes.

The pugs just can't compare to The Chidler. I hate imagining my life without him. When he is gone, a huge chunk of my life is gone. He is how I have got on, kept going. He is my best friend where there are none. I wonder if I will come downstairs one morning and find him gone, or worse, unable to move. How do I do it? How do I carry on? My sweet little puppy boy, I am not ready to say goodbye.

Cheeks

Ooo! I love this guy!

Juice By Heidi

I was inspired to start a seven day juice fast. A few years ago I fasted for two weeks and it seemed so easy. Now, I'm not so sure.

Your head really has to be in the right place and the first two days are somewhat difficult. I'm kind of psyched though. After you get past the hunger(it completely disappears) you really begin to feel good.

At least I did. My fast will end the day before Thanksgiving. I know that will make me think twice about what I decide to stuff in my mouth that day.

Sucking It Up

When I came outside, it was perfectly balmy for a late October day. The sky was gray, but tinged with high flat clouds, fading golden at the edges. The leaves were twirling and whirling so forcefully today I thought they might burst into the doors of the car and stick there like little knives.

When I was little, I imagined autumn leaves smelling like drying tobacco as we buried our tiny bodies in giant piles of that dry must. Today I am treasuring every gorgeous moment and memory of the fading beauty that is this life on Earth.

Light in the Forest

My Girl

Hello Out There!

It turned out to be a beautiful Saturday and I just finished up scouring the Casa: put everything in its place, vacuumed, scrubbed the floors and cleaned the bathrooms. What's next? I don't know. I think I'm gonna clean up and go on an adventure and shoot some photos. It's a beautiful, gorgeous day and I'm happy to be alive.

Little Jack

My Old Man

Going on 12...

Sting

so glad you were on the other side of the windshield...

The Great North Woods

Fishing Line

Something Happy

Ham Anyone?

via the old Motorola Razor

I've Always Loved Your Hat

Gravity

Pulls everything back.

Goodbye, Summer

He shall miss you...

Say Queeeeeeeso!

Alfalfa Sprout

Alfie, the Tibetan Terrier @ Five Months

Silver Fox

Every morning since school has started, I hook up the Ladybug to the Simple Seven and make the jaunt to Kindergarten.

After I dropped SF off at school, I did my usual trek with The Chidler and then hopped into the bath. I gave myself the normal dose of Patchouli and forgot about it. I headed off to meet my friend Katy to work on "Database Applications". Joy.

We worked for a few hours and I went home just in time to hook my kit back up and pick up My Charge from school. A few weeks after school started the usual crossing guard started training a newbie to take over.

The Newbie is a 60-70 something codger with a beer belly who wears a "Tomahawk Community Bank" chocolate brown polyester trucker's hat(complete with hatchet graphic) and drives a sanitary looking forest green Toyota 4x4 Truck with a tidy matching topper.

Recently he flies solo. No babysitter.

His shocking white hair peeks out from under the edges of his cap and he wears square gold metal rimmed glasses with thick brown tinted lenses. In his DayGlo Chartreuse vest, he attempts to dissuade the local flow of traffic to "STOP!". Sign clenched tight in his suntanned, meaty fist, I always make sure to wait until the traffic stops to step off the curb because people are mostly drunk or blind at that time of day around here.

As he brought me across the Avenue in the direction of pick up he says,

"You smell good!" in his scratchy, crunchy, slightly nasal old guy voice.

"Thanks" I said, feeling a weird glaze pour across my face. Do I eeeeeeeeeuuuuuuu or do I ahhhhhhhhhhhh? How funny, bizarre and cool is it for a Grandpa to dig the Patchouli? As a friend of mine pointed out, "Take it as a compliment. Someday -- if we're lucky -- we all end up as senior citizens. It just happens."

I decided to ahhhhhhh.

New Old Things

This is the cool "partners" desk that I stole "won" on eBay for $24.
It has six drawers on each side and makes a cool dining table as well.




This is the most AWESOME 1950's mosaic and heavy brass coffee table.
Only $45! I feel so sneaky...




Sweet little Art Deco faux wood(cast metal) chair.
A real steal at only $1 more than my desk. I love a good find!

SF Found a Suspicious Mole

The Dark Night...

is a messy eater and still sleeps with his mommy.
(note to self: I adore how you can still see Baby and Bulldog cheeks here xo)

Boys

My weirdo neighbors had an old pair of kids handcuffs on their shitty old garage door. Leave it to SF to hook himself up when they weren't home. I called 911 and luckily, my Cool Neighbor(total non-weirdo), Josh, came to the rescue with a bevy of tools to free my little bird. Will that teach him?

Now with More Boy!

My Boy

Fake PLastic Flowers

Purple

Weiner on the Horizon

In a Dream

We Come in Peace

Sunshiney Day

TailGater

Tender Vittles